Solo Sojourns

”Foresight is not about predicting the future. It’s about minimising surprise’”

Karl Schroeder

Do your Research

When your thinking of going it alone don’t leave anything to chance! Take the time to plan your trip in advance. Research the destination and safety precautions. This will help you feel prepared and informed, reducing any anxiety or uncertainty. In a complex world things can go wrong but it helps to be prepared. Let’s start with a few key considerations.

Start with familiar destinations

Begin your solo travel journey by visiting places you are already familiar with, or have always wanted to explore. This eases you in and can help build your confidence and make you feel more comfortable navigating on your own. Don’t visit the same hotel you’ve already been with your partner for obvious reasons. Start new memories instead.

Learn to enjoy your own company

Easier said than done for many people, but being alone doesn’t equate to being lonely. The ability to feel content and fulfilled in solitude is a valuable skill and can contribute to overall well-being.

Some people use alone-time for self reflection, journalling. and connecting with nature. Spending time in nature can be incredibly rejuvenating and calming.

Choose safe accommodation

Opt for accommodations that prioritise safety and comfort. Look for well-reviewed hotels and guesthouses. This can provide an added sense of security and a chance to connect with other like-minded travellers. Shoestring travel may have been attractive in your teens but I’d say if you can afford a little luxury these are the years to make the most of it. Being in a well run establishment with great staff and facilities can also add to your sense of wellbeing.

Treat yourself with kindness and understanding. Embrace the idea that being alone is an opportunity for self-care and self-discovery. Practice self-compassion by engaging in activities that bring you joy and nourish your soul.

Use an established travel company

Especially important if your trip is long distance. This is immediate professional backup 24/7 and when things go wrong, they can pick up the pieces for you. I can personally recommend Travel Counsellors in the uk. They take all the guesswork and pain out of the organising the logistics and travel details, especially of multi -destination trips. They also organise your trip in a fraction of the time it would take you to do it and get back promptly. It’s like having your very own travel guru and it’s single point of contact.

http://travelcounsellors.co.uk

If things go awry

And it’s out of your hands, try to embrace the uncertain. This means being open to the unexpected and seeing it as an opportunity for growth and learning. By letting go of rigid expectations and embracing the uncertainty, you’re able to tap into your creative problem-solving abilities and find alternative solutions.

If things go completely pear shaped try to maintain a sense of equanimity. This means staying calm and composed in the face of challenges. Taking a few deep breaths, grounding yourself in the present moment, and reminding yourself that setbacks are a natural part of life can help you maintain a positive attitude and make better decisions.

Additionally, it can be helpful to have a backup plan or alternative options in mind before embarking on yourjourney. This way, if something does go wrong, you already have a few ideas on how to adapt and adjust your plans.

Stay connected

Ensure you have a reliable means of communication while traveling solo. Carry a fully charged mobile phone, and invest in a portable charger. Share your itinerary with a trusted friend or family members, so they know your whereabouts. Text home regularly if you need to.

Trust your intuition

As an older woman, you likely have a wealth of life experience and intuition. Trust your gut instincts and listen to your inner wisdom. If something feels off or unsafe, don’t hesitate to change your plans or seek assistance. In my experience people are only too willing to help.

Join group activities

Consider participating in group activities or tours during your solo travels. This can provide opportunities to meet fellow travellers and create connections, while still maintaining your independence. There are often gentler activities to enjoy in a good hotel like yoga or pool aerobics, daily stretch classes and the and the like. Not forgetting starting conversations with people over pre or post-dinner drinks and coffee. Strangers, as the old adage goes, are friends you haven’t met yet. Treat yourself to Spa treatments , a great way to interact and relax at the same time.

Take it at your own pace

Don’t be afraid to step outside of your comfort zone but only if and when you feel ready. Embrace the opportunity to explore new cultures, meet interesting people, and discover more about yourself along the way.

And last but not least…

Don’t put things off until you feel more like it. Visit those friends in far off places. The senior years are precarious and health can be snatched away too soon. As Nike says Just Do It! And on that note, very soon I’m off to visit some lovely friends in Vancouver. And again, I’m easing into solo travel. That will come at the end of the visit when I take that Alaskan Cruise. O solo mio 😜